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Thursday, August 1, 2013

The Weight Loss Diaries : #1 Starting The Journey

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Nobody embarks on a journey without knowing exactly where they are going, or a guide at least. What'll end happening is that person will end up going nowhere because to begin with, there was no specific destination. You can't start anything without a vision of what you want to obtain in the end in your head or else you will get pretty much nowhere because you have nothing to aspire to. The same goes with weight loss. Before starting the journey, it is imperative to know where you want to go. This is where your goals come in.

This step is the very first step. Even before trying to sign up to the gym or before chucking out everything in your fridge in a frenzy to stock up on veggies and what not, you have to have a goal. And please, do not confuse a goal for what you admire on someone else. The next person's achievement cannot be your goal because you are not that person. Many times, we get this step wrong and because we do, the rest of our journey leans on a very weak foundation. This first step is very important and will determine how far you go"Where there is no vision, the people perish" [Proverbs 29:18]. Without goals, you are pretty much going...nowhere.

GOAL :: the object of a person's ambition or effort; an aim or desired result {New Oxford American Dictionary}

So then, how do you build goals when it comes to weight loss? Well, there are a few things to take into account and once you respect them, they'll help you shape your ultimate weight loss goal{s) --

1. Why do I want to loose weight? -- Silly question right? Wrong! Many people jump on the "weight loss2 bandwagon these days without knowing why. Others just do it to please their entourage. Why do YOU want to loose weight? Is it because you think it's time to change your life habits or is because it seems like what everyone is expecting you to do? Whatever your reason, do it for you and not because you are under pressure. I'd always felt good in my skin before but when I stopped feeling comfortable with my constant weight gain, that was when I knew it was time to change. I'd been dissed before about being chubby and what not but that didn't make me feel like I had to change. The need to change came from within me.

2. How far are you willing to go? -- It's time to be real. You know yourself. Don't try feigning. Only make goals as far as you think you can go. This depends on a whole lot of factors and some you can't even control {like health issues}. It's best to know from the beginning how far you are willing to go, that is, how much you can invest in this journey, before writing out your goals to be sure that you will be able to reach them.

3. Are those really your goals? -- I ask because as I stated earlier, what the next person has achieved cannot be your goal. You cannot copy and paste other people's achievements as your goals. They might have lost all that weight in x months and look like that but who says you can loose all that weight in the same amount of time or even if you did, how do you know you'd look like that? Personalize your goals. It is ok to be inspired, in fact, we all need inspiration but you cannot use someone else's achievements as a measuring rod for yourself simply because nobody is like the next somebody. We are all unique in our ways. Stick to what YOU want & what YOU can do.

4. What are your resources? -- Before writing down your goals, locate your resources. What are resources? I'm talking your free time, your finances {budget}, your lifestyle {do you live alone, have a family?}, your habits, your health specifications. In short, your resources are what you can mobilize to help you on your way to fulfilling your goals. They depend on what kind of life you are living so that means your goals have to be tailored to your lifestyle or your lifestyle has to be tailored to your goals. Either that or you work with both to get to an equilibrium.

5. How realistic are your goals? -- Next question to ask yourself. If you want to loose 10 kg /22 lb. in 6 months with only 10 minutes of jogging a day, then you're being really unrealistic. Your goals have to be real. This means, considering your lifestyle, the time you have, your resources and such. Don't blindly write down goals because they'd be nice to accomplish but do what you can do. Don't be hard on yourself. It's not a race. It's about you making progress, no matter how long it will take you. Be real because failing to do so will definitely lead to not attaining your goals. It is better to set small but real goals for yourself that you can achieve than huge goals that will be very difficult to attain. Failing to reach your goals can ultimately lead to you giving up and rolling back to your old habits. "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life" [Proverbs 13:12].

6. What are you willing to change? -- After checking your resources, you have to ask yourself what you are willing to change to be able to make room for your goals. Truth is, if your goals are completely tailored to your lifestyle, they will be less challenging and probably take more time. This is because change is needed to see results. I'm not saying you won't see results if you base your goals on your lifestyle but if you continue with your eating habits, and can only squeeze in 15 minutes of cardio every two days so you can loose a substantial amount of weight by Christmas, then you have some changing up to do. I'd advice doing both : base your goals on your lifestyle and also base your lifestyle on your goals. There are parts of your life you will not be able to change but trust me, there are other parts you can. Pin point what you can change and start building your goals on that part of your life.

7. What is your time limit? -- A goal needs a time frame. A starting point and an end point. No goal can go on forever, then it's not a goal, it's become a lifestyle. The problem with a lifestyle is that you are not expecting any end results. You first have to reach a goal first to make the end result a lifestyle. You might be biking 30 minutes a week now just to stay fit...that's a great lifestyle but you are not really expecting any tangible end result apart from staying fit which is a bit too vague to be a goal. You can have a goal to get fitter in 12 months but you cannot say your goal is to get fit by biking 30 minutes a week without having a time frame in mind. Your goal has to be precise. Once you get to your goal, it can then become a lifestyle that you'll continue to practice. Mark out a starting point and give yourself ample time [question 5] to accomplish your goal. It is better to give yourself more time than needed than not enough time. 

8. Are you ready to go all the way? -- Another dump question? Wrong again! If you are not willing to put your 200% into your goals, don't bother starting them. Half heartedness is the secret ingredient to failure. Please, if you know you will not be able to go all the way then cross out that goal now and think of something you will be able to put your all into. Don't waste your energy and time  kinda doing it when you could find something else you can totally do. At the end of the day, the only person you're going to be fooling is yourself. Don't do it because it seems cool and others are doing it, pick your goals according to YOU!

Once you've looked through this point, you should have a clear idea of your goals. Now write them down and visualize yourself already accomplishing them
You're ready for step #2!



1 comment:

  1. These are great questions I believe also apply not only to weightloss but to any other project. But most of the time, we avoid the questions because we don't want to be ral with ourselves. Thanks so much for sharing Sis! I'll remember these!

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